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4.03 BUILD UPS, LOVE, ALWAYS WRONG, JUDGEMENT -- THIRTY-FOUR EXAMPLES OF ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR

==== Some abusers will build you up and then tear you down.

If you believe their build up, then they can take that away and tear you down in an attempt to gain control.

==== Some abusers may see your love for them as a weakness and as a way to control you.

Such abusers may say things such as, "If you loved me, you would do xyz." Of course the obvious answer is that if that person loved you, they would not ask you to do xyz.

==== Abusers often put you in difficult positions; no matter what you do it will be wrong which is the ultimate control.

Abusers are often demanding and very hard to please so that trying to meet their demands means that most of the time you will fail.

==== Abusers have set themselves up as having the right to judge you, while you do not have the right to judge them.

They think of themselves as superior because they can decide your worth while you do not have enough status to pass judgement on their worth.

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