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2.00 VERBAL ABUSE SELF-HELP: TAKE BACK YOUR IDENTITY

Before you do anything else, take back your identity. By controlling your sense of who you are, the abuser has altered your sense of yourself to suit the abuser. You must have a clear sense of your own being, independent of that person. When you do this, you will not be as vulnerable to the abuser's manipulations.

Another important step is to stop complaining. Once you have clearly stated your case, complaining about the same issue is generally tuned out by the other person and seen as whining or nagging. If you feel you have a valid complaint, you will need to come up with concrete steps to deal with your concerns. So don't just complain, do something!

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